Do you ever wake up in a bad mood? I know I do.
Does the busyness of the day ever wear you down?
Or maybe you have been experiencing a lot of life and you just feel exhausted.
This is FOR YOU!
Today I’m going to share with you a shift that can help transform your mindset. It has been an amazing shift for me in my life. And as simple as it sounds, these tips will help you make some major adjustments in your life.
I want to start off with a story about myself. Some of you may not believe what I’m about to tell you, but I’m going to share it and be very vulnerable. But before I do, a little background on me: I’ve been self-supporting since I was 18 years old. I went to college, and I paid for it myself. Well there were a lot of things that happened around that time when I was first out on my own. First of all, I’d broken up with my boyfriend that I’d had for a long time. And I was clueless about where I wanted my life to go. I had zero support from my family and I was living the party girl lifestyle.
So here’s my story. One day when I was 20 year old, I drove the 30 minute commute to college, but when I got there, instead of going into class, I parked my car, climbed in the backseat and just laid down. I laid there for a long time. I simply couldn’t get up. I was energyless, exhausted, and looking back now, probably depressed. All of the partying and floundering through life was catching up with me.
It took me two more years, but at the age of 22 I stopped drinking. And within a few months, a lot of clarity started to happen. I began to really notice the choices that I had been making were focused more on the negatives that were happening in my life than on anything positive. I was choosing to focus on my lack of family support and on how hard things were for me.
I was living proof that what you think about, you bring about.
Because I was focusing on the lack, I was only seeing the lack in my life. It is so subtle you guys, but it can creep in as easily as one negative thought. Then before you know it, you are spiraling downward into only negative thoughts.
I want you to get a paper and a pen and write something down. I want you to plaster the following sentence everywhere around your house:
Everything happens for you, not to you.
There are sometimes circumstances where you think: this is not happening FOR me. And it’s so hard to see it in the midst of trauma, in the midst of a terrible circumstance, etc., but there will always be something positive that will come from every obstacle.
So let’s flip the switch.
You have a choice in how you think about every circumstance.
One thing my mom told me when I was younger, which I’ve always remembered and repeated over and over in my life is, “Deanna, tomorrow will always be better.” So I’m going to pass that on to you. Mama Deanna is passing that on to you.
Tomorrow will always be better.
I want to give you three tips for more abundant thinking:
- Commit to an attitude of gratitude.
- Be mindful about who you hangout with.
- Remind yourself that you were created for abundance.
Commit to an attitude of gratitude.
One of the things that I’ve noticed has transformed my life, is every single morning I start with gratitude. I have a gratitude journal and I just start writing all of the things that I’m grateful for every single day. So if you happen to wake up in a bad mood, this WILL transform that mood.
And here are the benefits of practicing gratitude. It can lower your stress. It gives you a new perspective on what is important. You become more aware of your thoughts. And I’m going to tell you that awareness is the first step towards making a change. You may be thinking the same thoughts over and over, but you have no clue that you’re thinking them until you actually write them down. So write them down, and then start focusing on more of the positive things in your life.
Another thing that gratitude does for you is attract the same likeness. When you’re focused on an attitude of gratitude, you will attract good things and good people. The last thing that I want to share is that an attitude of gratitude has made me personally more generous. I’m more empathetic towards other people because I am outward-focused. Abundance mentality, which includes gratitude, is focused more on all the good in our life, which also helps us to focus on others. Click on this link for an idea list for practicing 30 days of gratitude. I always focus on gratitude in November because that is a month for thanksgiving, but you can and should practice gratitude all year long!
Be mindful about who you hangout with.
My second tip involves who you hangout with. And this is really important you guys. It’s so important. You are the sum of the five people you most hang with. So if you’re hanging around with people who have no drive, no motivation, who are negative, and who don’t allow you to be bold or shine bright when you are with them, then you’re hanging around with the wrong group. And you have to be very careful who you allow in your space. Be protective of your space. If you are wanting more out of life, if you are wanting to have the life that you truly deserve, if you want to have that job that you really desire, you have to be careful who you allow in your space.
So start focusing and noticing those people that you surround yourself. Are they people that actually lift you up? And if they’re not, you need to find new people. I’m going to tell you, one thing that I have learned in my life is to limit the people who don’t serve me in some way. I’m not being selfish. I’m talking about people who don’t serve my energy, my beliefs, my goals, etc. They don’t let me shine. They don’t allow me to be bold. I love them, but I limit them. It’s not something that I say out loud. It’s something that I have to do in my life physically.
We have to love people. We’re all on our own personal growth journey and we’re at different levels in our personal growth journey. If those people that you’re hanging around with have a tendency to be negative and don’t have the same beliefs that you do, they’re just on a different personal growth journey than you are. And can they catch up? They can, but you cannot surround yourself with them because they could bring you down, okay?
So love and limit.
Remind yourself that you were created for abundance.
And lastly, I want to share with you that there’s more for you. There’s more for you out there and you are worth it. My favorite book is the Bible in Ephesians. I want you to read this: Ephesians 3:20. God says that there is immeasurably more for you. More than you can even imagine. And who are we to think that we don’t deserve everything this life has to offer? I have yet to meet a person in my 54 years of life who doesn’t deserve the best that life has to offer. God doesn’t skip one single person.
God wants the very best for you. Why would he not want you to experience every single thing this world has to offer? Why would he want to give somebody else something and skip you? He loves you the same. There’s no favorite in this world. He loves you. It doesn’t matter what you’ve done. It doesn’t matter where you came from. It doesn’t matter what mistakes you’ve made. He loves you and wants more for your life. And your role is to believe that and go for it. Absolutely go for it. You are worthy. You deserve more.
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Thank you so much for giving me just a little piece of your life, and thank you for helping me live out my passion to really breathe life into women and help them become the best versions of themselves. You are so worthy. I love you to pieces. God bless.